November 22, 2005
THE GUIDE TO MALE BODY LANGUAGECan you tell if someone is into you just based on the way they move an eyebrow? Tracey Cox ,author of Superflirt believes it can be done.In her book,she says that women have 52 moves to show men they're interested. The average man chooses from a maximum of 10 to attract a female.Learning his pre-programmed signals can show you if you are wasting your time with trying to pursue or not.
The Eyebrow Flash
When we first see someone we're attracted to, our eyebrows rise and fall. If they like us back, they raise their eyebrows. The whole thing lasts about a fifth of a second and it happens everywhere in the world -- to everyone regardless of age, race, or class. Lifting our brows pulls the eyes open and allows more light to reflect off the surface, making them look bright, large and inviting. A flash might be easy to miss but they're so reliable, if you do spot one, you may know someone likes you before they've even registered it themselves. Deliberately extend it for up to one second and you've drastically upped the chances of him getting the message you're interested.
His lips part.
If he likes what he sees, his lips will automatically part for a moment when your eyes first lock.
His nostrils flare and his face generally "opens".
The raised brows, parted lips, flaring nostrils and wide eyes give the whole face a friendly "open" expression.
He'll try to attract your attention.
For some men, this might mean a subtle tie adjustment along with a silent prayer that you'll notice the flash of movement. Others turn into Boo-Boo the Fool and become so loud and boisterous, they're practically juggling and doing handstands. Any exaggerated movement or gesture usually means he's trying to stand out from the group. Another giveaway: he'll unconsciously detach from his friends by standing slightly apart, hoping to be seen as an individual.
He'll stroke his tie or smooth a lapel.
We all know what these preening gestures mean. They're the equivalent of the female lip lick -- "I want to look good for you."
He'll stand with hands on hips.
This accentuates his physical size and suggests body confidence. It's also a pointing gesture. We point with our hands at our own best sexual assets and also at the parts of our body where we'd most like to be touched. If he spends the night with his hands on his hips, fingers splayed and pointing downward, he's willing you to look, touch and admire the part he's proudest of. All subconscious, of course. Well, it is in most cases... LOL
That's why a lot of guys grab their dicks,it's like look right here mama,and I do..lol.
He'll play with the buttons on his jacket, buttoning and unbuttoning it. It's a displacement activity (fiddling) because you've made him a little nervous, plus an unconscious desire to remove his clothes. The next stage is to push the jacket open and hold it there by putting his hands on his hips. If he takes it off completely, he's imagining you cooking him breakfast in the morning.
He'll touch his face a lot, while looking at you.
If he's interested, he'll stroke his cheek up and down with the back of his fingers, touch his ears, or rub his chin. It's a combination of nervous excitement, preening and autoerotic touching. When we're attracted to someone, our skin (most noticeably our lips and mouth) become increasingly sensitive to touch and other stimulation. If you smoke, you'll take more drags on your cigarette. If you're drinking, you'll take more sips. You start touching your own mouth more because your lips are ultra sensitive and it feels good. Plus, it plants the idea in the other person's mind that it could be a good idea to kiss you.
He'll perch on the edge of his seat to get closer. And if he crosses his legs, the top leg will point in your direction
He'll guide you by putting his arm on your elbow or in the small of your back. The arm guide isn't just good manners and a polite way of guiding you through a crowd; he's making sure he knows exactly where you're going by taking you there. He doesn't want to lose you! It also shows you're being "taken care of" so no other men need volunteer. Along with the arm guide, there'll be lots of accidentally-on-purpose touches.
Aren't men silly little things...I love them.